Online dating rejection letter
Because our ancestors survived by being a part of a tribe, this need remains inside us and means that memories of rejection are stronger and more easily remembered than those of physical pain.
Given that, it’s just the smarter option for women who don’t want to field a bunch of hostile and insulting messages not to respond to people to say “thanks but I don’t think we’re the right match.” Now, it’s certainly true that some job applicants also respond to rejection with hostility, but (a) they’re far less numerous than in online dating, (b) the intensity of the hostility seems to be lower, and (c) it’s part of the job in that situation to deal with the occasional whacked out response to rejection. At the same time, changing my profile status to “seeing someone” every time I go on a second date seems like overkill. And you totally came to the right guy to answer them.My second question is about saying no/rejecting people. I know what I am supposed to do – spit it out, be direct – but I really, really wish there was a less uncomfortable way to do it (men have it easy, all they have to do is not call). Really, I hate to toot my own horn about my embarrassingly vast online dating experience, but, well, TOOT TOOT! You want to act with integrity and be nice, but not hurt anybody’s feelings. Most people, men and women, have no interest in hurting anyone passively or actively.You need to know how to dish out rejection in an appropriate way.As with real life, you must do it quickly — and with a modicum of kindness, if possible.